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TPOK Live! 020 - Consent Violations - How do we handle them? - A SPECIAL JOINT SHOW
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Publish Date: 2016-07-10 22:51:08
Description: Three different shows on TPOK Radio come together to discuss this very important and difficult topic. TPOK Live, The 3rd Rail and Stereo Typed will all be on hand with all of it’s hosts. The discussion panel will include Preacher Bear, AuntieSocial, Rubee Tuesday and Crazy Heart. We have often said on TPOK Radio that we would not shy away from the difficult conversations and we think that consent violations can be right at the top of that list. This topic can be a polarizing one and can lead to drama and confusion within our lifestyle. We at TPOK Radio believe that as a community we need to open conversations and raise the level of debate. We need to hear what people have to say and be open to all ideas. This is not an easy topic to talk about as there are many aspects and levels of consent violation. What is a violation to one person is completely ok to another. Some people like their boundaries pushed past what they negotiated and for others it’s a line that should never be crossed. There are several aspects to every case and scenario. Not only do we need to talk about the consent violators we also need to talk about what happens when someone is falsely accused of a consent violation. How do we determine who is in the right? What were the circumstances? None of this is easy to talk about but we have to have these conversations. There are two sides to every story and we rarely get the full story from either side of the argument. If I am an organizer how do I collect this information? Do you have a plan in place to handle complaints? I like the [Broken Stair][http://pervocracy.blogspot.ca/2012/06/missing-stair.html] analogy for this subject. We all know that it’s there and we probably should try to repair the problem but in many ways it’s easier to just warn people about it and never really tackle the problem. We think that it’s not really our issue unless it directly effects us as an individual. This is very flawed thinking. We understand that nobody really wants to talk about this but if it happens to you on either side of the consent violation you will be happy that discussions happened and that mechanisms were put into place to handle the situation in the best way possible. We also need to discuss what happens when someone is guilty of a consent violation. Is every consent violation considered to be on the same level? What does a consent violation look like? What do we do if it is proven that someone was falsely accused of a violation? How do we help either party after the fact? Who polices our community? What mechanisms to we put into place to prevent violations? How do we educate people? Where do people find this information to be educated?
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