126 Lorna Poole- What To Do If You Love Him More Than He Loves You?

It really hurts when someone you love does not have the same degree of excitement about you as you do about them. I have seen women get married to cheating boyfriends; I have witnessed girlfriends having babies with their partner to solidify the relationship. I have seen women warn off other women from their man even though it is obvious to everyone else “He just not that into you”. I have seen women date married men and the wife ignores the truth because she can’t bear to face the fact she might be without her beloved husband.

I hate to be harsh….. 

If you know this why are you still there?

As hurtful as that comment sounds, it is the truth. I don’t care how high your mortgage is or how entangled the situation is, that relationship is not giving you what you need.

Some of you will be okay with this, but others will be secretly wondering how do I get out of this mess or how do I break this pattern in my life?

Here’s how… By making a choice and facing the consequences. The good will appear once you take the plunge. Once you are out of the storm you will never look back and wonder what took you so long in the first place.

I know my first comment was a little harsh, but read on, I have a solution before you go break up with him!

Take your power back

Start to take your power back. Forget about him for a moment and start taking a deep look at whom you are, what you want and can you stay in this situation long-term. No one can make you happy but you. And it is up to you to gain the internal strength to do what is right for you. You won’t regret it! Ever!

What you will regret is how something that does not serve you as cost you your life, your freedom, your voice and your ability to be you. So remember take the first step, take your power back for you.

Be okay with the fear

If someone loves you more than you love them and you know it, be okay with it. Do you stay there out of fear, anxiety and what ifs? We all have that going on in our heads to some degree, so understand your experience is shared by many

Focus on growing yourself

Before you go all in and break up with him, focus on growing yourself out of the situation. As you grow as a person internally, your partner might learn to love you more. He might push you away because you have changed or you might walk away because you see more hope in your new life than your old.

Either way with your new found power, it will work out in the end.

Have a life of your own

Start to build up a new world for yourself. Value your relationship as you always have but start adding in a new class you always wanted to do but kept putting off. Go for drinks with your friends. Get you back; he will love this about you! And if he doesn’t you know what you need to do……

Don’t wait for him to change

People change because they want to not because you want them too. People change out of burning desire inside of them to live there life differently. Don’t accept the promises and the one day excuses. Ask yourself how long am I going to put my life on hold for him? How much longer am I willing to wait? Can I do this?

  If you find yourself in love with him and he is not so into you, there are a couple of things you can do. The biggest gift you can give yourself is to spend the time and money on you. Take a little more care of you. Decide what you want? Decide if he is good enough for you?

Way up his reaction along the way and make the appropriate choices.

It will all work out in the end.

Thanks for joining me this week on the Magnet For Love Podcast. If you any questions you would like to ask or have a topic you would like us to talk about. Write to me  lorna@lornapoole.com.

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