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What is this sneaky, yet destructive thing called toxic shame, and could it be the root cause of our continued suffering and emotional dysregulation? Toxic shame lies at the heart of most self-sabotaging behaviors that keep us feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected from others. Signs of internalized toxic shame can manifest in various ways and differ from person to person. Persistent feelings of unworthiness, negative self-talk, perfectionism, fear of vulnerability and intimacy, difficulty setting boundaries, chronic self-consciousness, avoidant behaviors, negative body image, and emotional instability can all be indicators of toxic shame.
This is part five in a multi-episode series aimed at helping you alchemize and transmute your toxic shame. In this episode, we will explore the devastating impact on our lives when internalized toxic shame becomes our state of being. We will also dive into the different ways abandonment can present in childhood through physical abuse, emotional abandonment, and deprived narcissism.
In the Premium half of the episode, I discuss my personal healing journey and the positive impact Somatic Experiencing therapy is having on my life. We finish up with a guided pendulation exercise inspired by the work of Peter Levine.
Check out the time stamps below for a more detailed description of the topics covered in this episode. 00:00 – 11:24: Intro + reading of my poem “untethered” (the impact of toxic shame in my own life) 11:24 – 14:53: How toxic shame becomes a permanent state of being 14:53 – 19:35: Understanding the connection between toxic shame and abandonment trauma 19:35 – 36:32: Abandonment as physical absence 36:32 – 01:06:24: Abandonment as emotional neglect and deprived narcissism 01:06:24 – 01:12:57: Abandonment as physical abuse 01:12:57 – 01:48:16: How somatic experiencing is helping me get back into my body 01:48:16 – 02:01:50: Guided pendulation exercise inspired by the work of Peter Levine (creator of Somatic Experiencing) FOR FULL EPISODE ACCESS + BONUS CONTENT: visit backfromtheborderline.com or click here to join the Premium Submarines. TO SIGN UP FOR MY FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER: click here. Disclaimer: information contained in this podcast episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ audio-only listener benefits https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline.
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