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Podcast: The Angry Therapist Podcast
Episode:

Stop Guessing Their Love: Say What Lands
Category: Health
Duration: 00:26:08
Publish Date: 2025-08-20 07:00:00
Description:

A 30-second, playful moment sparked this episode - and a reminder: love isn’t generic. We break down how to speak love so it lands without abandoning yourself, especially when partners differ.

What you’ll learn (10 takeaways):

  • Love isn’t generic - different emotional blueprints
  • How to avoid the “I’m giving everything, it’s still not enough” trap
  • Building emotional safety so defenses drop
  • Reducing resentment & energy burnout
  • Deepening intimacy beyond the physical
  • Faster conflict repair by making the nervous system feel safe
  • Future-proofing with regular “What makes you feel most loved?” check-ins
  • Co-regulation: why the right love calms insecure attachment
  • Turning micro-moments into daily bonding rituals
  • Why guessing breaks trust (love is a skill)

Try this today: Ask your partner, “What lands for you this week?” Then do one unexpected gesture in their way of receiving love (a short note, a quick chore, five phone-free minutes together, a gentle touch, a tiny gift).

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