7.20 Self Determinism versus Your Script - Can You Shift Your Story?

Stories run us, until we can see them. In this episode, Kristina and Anna unpack how “the subconscious” is less a black box and more an ecology of repeating narratives. They move from storytelling tropes (plot armor, fish-out-of-water) into a bigger claim. Our inner villains are story structures, and healing is stewardship, not erasure. Along the way, they explore ancestral threads, family patterning, and a practical way to step out of the script mid-scene.

Key Topics

• Why common storytelling tropes feel manipulative once you can “see the scaffolding”
• Plot armor, fish-out-of-water, and how character arcs predict what “can” happen in a story
• The idea that the subconscious is knowable, because it’s made of stories, not mystery
• A working hypothesis: the nine Inner Villains are nine recurring story structures in human life
• Stewardship vs elimination. You don’t delete the story, you change how it plays out
• Ancestral patterning, embodiment, and what it means to carry a lineage thread without becoming it
• How relationship dynamics can become “setups” that keep a villain role alive (the trash-day example)
• Sankhara, craving, aversion. As story addiction, not just “bad habits”
• Choosing an arc intentionally. Using attention as the lever for behavioral change
• A simple exercise: identify what chapter you’re in, then choose a different next page

Notable Moments and Quotes (short excerpts)

• “The subconscious is not unknowable.”
• “We are taught we are just the tree, not the root system.”
• “Trauma is not the beginning of something. It’s the middle of something.”
• “You’re not that character anymore.”
• “I’m sick of choosing the same page.”

Practical Takeaways

1) Name the script while you’re in it

When you hear yourself saying lines you’ve said a hundred times, pause and label it: “Oh, this is that story.”

2) Swap “fixing” for “stewarding”

Ask: “What would the easier version of this lesson look like?” Not “How do I eliminate this forever?”

3) Find the setup

If a conflict repeats like clockwork, assume there’s a hidden payoff. Example: being the savior, being righteous, being indispensable.

4) Use attention as your control lever

Behavior is mostly automatic. Attention is the steering wheel. Practice moving attention on purpose.

5) Try the chapter exercise

“This is the chapter where I’m angry.”

“This is the chapter where I make a plan.”

“This is the chapter where the protagonist stops performing the old role.”

Suggested Listener Reflection Prompts

• What story do I keep reenacting because it gives me an identity?
• Where do I get to be the savior, the martyr, or the judge?
• What would it look like to let consequences happen without drama?
• If I’m not trying to “win” this scene, what choice becomes available?
• Which arc am I unintentionally feeding with my attention right now?

Mentioned

• Delaney Rowe (comedian, Instagram) for character trope satire
• Game of Thrones as an example of subverting plot armor
• Fallout as fish-out-of-water worldbuilding
• The Pitt (HBO) as fish-out-of-water workplace introduction
• Murder at the End of the World (Brit Marling) as a female-led “sleuth” archetype
• Richard Powers, The Overstory and the root network metaphor
• Aboriginal Australian songlines and ancestral story-carrying
• Ainslie MacLeod (past-life framing and “you’re not in that story anymore”)
• Drama Triangle vs Empowerment Triangle (reframing roles and choice)

Listener Homework

Pick one recurring conflict this week.

1. Name the story.
2. Identify your role.
3. Choose one small inversion. A different tone, a different action, or no action at all.
4. Notice what becomes possible when you refuse the old script.

Call to Action

If this episode hit you, send Kristina and Anna a note with:

• The story you’re realizing you live inside, and
• The one choice you want to practice to steward it differently.