BR 09: Be The Mom...

Hi everyone! This is Connie Sokol, and you're listening to Balance Redefined Radio. I've spent over 20 years teaching people how to redefine what balance really is, meaning a more purposeful and joyful life.

They’ve paid off credit cards, lost weight, organize their homes, and created a meaningful life plan and they've managed their time, changed habits and experience greater success both at work and at home.

So now I decided to take the plunge and help about 100,000 new people who want to redefine balance in their lives. People ask me all the time, “How do I go from an overwhelming and chaotic life to more purpose and organization and joy?”

That's the reason why I'm doing this podcast, to give you trusted answers and create a space where you could find balance. My name is Connie Sokol and welcome to Balance Redefined Radio…

Hi there, welcome back to another podcast with Connie Sokol, the owner and founder of “Balance reDefined,” a wonderful program that helps you live a more purposeful, organized, and joyful life. Right?

Exactly. This is Connie on the go and you are ready for a little boost because you have a minute between running errands, and running around, and grabbing kid,s or running a dash between meetings, and you need the uplift. Well, it's here today. My thought today for you is be the mom...

What does that mean? That means when the moment is hard and you want to please your children or you want to think that you're the awesome, cool mom in the neighborhood, still be the mom, do the right thing.

The other day, one of my daughters had a conundrum. She texted me frantically that she wanted to be able to go to this concert with her friend…

Well, I thought it was a choir concert until I'm running another child to another thing and she says to me, “No, no, no. It's a concert concert.”

So they were going to this venue that I did not know, by a singer I did not know, and they were going to be dropped off by the other friend’s family members who were wonderful and loved them, but my daughter and her friend are both 15 and they would be dropped off, left there and then picked up after. In my soul, my alarms went crazy, and I thought, “They are not even 16 and I can't do that.”

So I did say a quick prayer because I wanted to know if there was something good about this that I was overlooking. I felt strongly, “No, it wasn't.”

While my sweet daughter who should be a lawyer in the future, gave all of her best evidence and all of her best persuasive arguments, and they were good…

However, I was unmoved and I could feel in my soul for whatever reason, this was not the best timing or thing for her to do.

That night I went to go take my daughter, my other daughter to dance, and in my mind I thought, “You know, she's the kind that she really could just take off and do it while I'm taking my other daughter to this dance thing.” Then coming back and interestingly enough, I came back and she was still home, and I was totally impressed.

As we talked later, she said, “Mom, I had my outfit all picked out that I was just going to go ahead and go anyway.”

But she said, “At the last moment I felt like I need to do the right thing,” and instead she took out her angst with Ben and Jerry's chips, animal crackers and a few other things I believe that made her feel better in the moment.

But as we talked later, I told her how proud I was of her, that she had had a character shaping moment to which she promptly rolled her eyes...

However, I said, “Well, you just stay with me for a moment because I did pray twice later to see if there was a different answer. And you know what? I got the same thing, and then it left my mind, which for me means I've made the right decision for whatever reason,” but I said, “You didn't know that, but you still did the right thing and that will yield fruits, unexpected fruits.”

You know what's interesting is that already I've had an idea where I'm going to be doing convention, a speaking convention, in the summer at a beautiful place, and she's wanted to come with me to some of my speaking engagements...

Now that she's older and wants to, I think I'm going to surprise her and take her. I’ll take her because now I know that if I'm at a class, and she just wants to do her art…

She wanted to do something like this before. She just does beautiful art and she would just want to be in the hotel and do art, and then we go swimming in the pool. After that she would be able to do that, and I would be at peace because I would know that she would stay put.  I would feel confidence in that.

So when push comes to shove, be the mom and your daughters, your sons will appreciate that you stayed true to what you knew what's right in your soul…

Beautifully she let it go, and we are still as beautiful friends, at least right now. But even the next day I was shocked that she had such a good attitude that was really amazing to me because I was biting my nails there thinking, ”Have I really damaged our relationship?” for awhile.

And beautifully, it all worked out. It doesn't always, but if you know you've been true to what you know is right for the situation, you can stand confident. So keep that in mind and be the mom.

And remember you got this!...

You got it. Thanks for listening and remember to rate and subscribe. And if you are feeling the need for real balance in your life, get your free 3-Step Life Plan, and get started today! Just go to conniesokol.com/download.