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164: How to Handle a Boss Who s a Jerk with Tom Henschel
Category: Business
Duration: 00:45:08
Publish Date: 2014-10-26 22:00:40
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Is someone you care about – or maybe even you – working for a jerk? In today’s show, my guest Tom Henschel from the Look & Sound of Leadership podcast helps us to navigate this difficult situation.

Tom Henschel
Host, The Look & Sound of Leadership
Executive and Leadership Coach, Essential Communications

How to know if it s just you

  • Test the waters, but be careful

How to address it

  • When you decide to talk, leave the emotion out of it
  • Frame the business concern, not you as the victim
  • Don t take it personally
  • Don t speak for others

You are not going to change your boss

  • It s not your place to get coaching for your boss
  • Nothing you will do will likely change your boss s behavior
  • If you can accept that, what do you want to do?

If it s really a business issue, give the feedback

  • Avoid being attached to the outcome
  • Once the feedback is given, let it go
  • Rehearse the feedback with someone trusted before you give it

What to do when the boss is chaotic

  • Calm down with someone who is chaotic
  • Take tons of notes
  • Get clear agreements
  • When they change something, don t take it personally
  • Consider sending a note afterwards to summarize what is said

How to deal with the narcissist

  • Be a good audience and ask how you can help them to succeed
  • Narcissists crave attention and there s not enough room in the spotlight for both of you. -Tom Henschel
  • With narcissists, in order to succeed with them, you need to not compete with them. -Tom Henschel
  • Have support outside of work too, since you won t get it from your boss
  • When you can do it honestly, throw them a bone
  • Always approach situations with collaboration and support

What do you do with the screamer?

  • Don t engage, wait it out

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