315: Stories of Compassionate Sex Work with Remi Newman and Lilith Foxx

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jess Zimmerman speaks with Lilith Foxx and Remi Newman about their new anthology, 'Hands-On.' The book is a collection of stories from sex workers that highlight the compassion, connection, and healing found in their work. The guests elaborate on the misconceptions surrounding sex work, the role of social justice, and their personal journeys within the profession. Lilith shares her empowering experience as a former sex worker and educator, while Remi details her path as a surrogate partner. The episode emphasizes the emotional and physical healing that sex work can provide and advocates for a broader understanding and acceptance of this profession.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:52 Sound Issues and Guest Introduction

01:53 The Origin of 'Hands-On' Anthology

04:17 Lilith Foxx's Journey and Passion

06:07 Social Justice and Sex Work

07:08 Misconceptions About Sex Work

08:40 Personal Stories of Entering Sex Work

14:15 Support from Loved Ones

16:58 Ethics and Sex Work

19:11 Healing Through Sex Work

22:34 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Experience

23:05 Exploring the Reasons Behind Seeking Surrogate Partners and Pro Dom Services

23:39 The Role of Companionship and Loneliness in Seeking Services

24:33 Shame and Vulnerability in Kink and Fetish Work

25:21 Drivers for Seeking Surrogate Partner Therapy

29:05 The Importance of Boundaries and Therapist Involvement

30:41 Reading an Excerpt: Holding Hands

37:54 Book Information and Closing Remarks

Bios:

Lilith Foxx (she/her) is a BIPOC, queer, neurodivergent, kinky and polyamorous marketing professional turned Board-certified sexologist, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator, professional speaker, coach, and inclusivity consultant. She is a graduate of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University’s Human Sexuality Intensive program, and is certified by Johns Hopkins University in psychological first aid. She is currently pursuing a master's degree in Public Health.

Her work focuses on the intersectionality of marginalized identities, alternative sexuality, and social justice. Informed by her personal and professional experiences, she provides BDSM and nonmonogamy cultural competency consulting for clinical, academic, and research settings, and facilitates workshops on sexuality justice and inclusion. Her expertise has been featured in several publications including Cosmopolitan, Glamour, HuffPost, Kinkly, GQ, Playboy, Men's Health, and in LiveJasmin's 'Life in Red' docu-series.

Remi Newman is a sexuality educator, writer and surrogate partner. She is the editor of the new anthology Hands On: Stories of Sexuality Work, Intimacy, and Healing. Remi has over 25 years working in the field of sexuality empowering people of diverse backgrounds to live healthy and fulfilling sex lives. She received her Master's in sexuality education from NYU. She is the proud mama of a teenage son, three naughty kitties and two adventurous crayfish.

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