Episode 23: Strategies for Optimal Family Life and Getting out Your Own Way Dr. Caitlin Faas Ph.D.

Dr Caitlin Faas brings us a ton of resources to read up on, so if you like books please clink any of these affiliate links and help improve yourself with Doctor approved self help resources. We have a civil conversation about the Bernie Sanders Free College for Everyone as well as the controversial Gender Pay Gap. We discuss getting the confidence and details so they can take the next step.  What habits are working or not?  Big emphasis on clearing out faulty mindsets and Getting unstuck.

Education: Kent State in Ohio followed by  Virginia Tech  Master to PHD program in 5 years.  Now she is on tenure track at Mount St Mary’s University in Maryland

Only 50% of the dual program students are generally completed.

Her emphasis is on developmental psychology and her dissertation is on the completion rate of students who start college and what happens with life satisfaction and work after dropping out.  We go into the details of what she found, it’s pretty interesting…  Spoiler if you think it’s not high, you live in an insulated bubble. Why do only 30% graduate? And Why do women finish more than men?.

She teaches as well as coaches professionals on lots of topics but specifically, time management, getting out of your own way, confidence, maximizing family time by being present. What’s your purpose, what are you passionate about? Coaching on specific goals in mind. Fear of not feeling good enough: smart enough, wealthy enough, or Feel like an imposter. Getting the confidence and details so they can take the next step.  What habits are working and which or not?  Big emphasis on clearing out faulty mindsets and getting unstuck.

Tips on time management strategies.  How do you set boundaries with your family so you can pursue the side hustle. Where to get extra time to do the side hustle along with having a family and kids without burning the candle on both ends.  When should you outsource side projects?.

When with your kids, how can you be present with them so family time is optimized?  How can we ask our kids the right questions so they want to share their lives with us.  Read the book How to listen so Kids will Talk.  She mentions modern family dinner etiquette.  Create space that fosters moments so your kids can share about what’s going on, think outside the box.. she explains this in more detail..

Have you heard of Shared Reading? (helps creativity and having conversations with kids)  Are fathers important in a kids life? Do you need a nuclear family or is community involvement a beneficial alternative.  How important are family or marriage meetings to staying mentally healthy.  Asking questions with your spouse about goals, happiness etc and keeping those conversations separate from did you take the trash out type..

Everybody needs a ME TOO mindset.  Regardless of your circumstance, there are people meeting together with similar issues and someone else is going through what you are going through to..

Tips and ideas of how to rejuvenate during vacation so you aren’t worried about your clinic the whole time. Tricks to unplug ahead of time so half your vacation is spent decompressing.

She mentions a great question to ask people older than you are, especially a grandparent age “What do you wish you knew when you were 30, 40?

Show notes can be found at www.adoctorsperspective.net/23 here you can also find tweetable quotes, links to things mentioned and the Travel Tip

Keep track of what your doing so you can compare it later.

Do people who start college really finish and are they better off?

Create space  that fosters moments so your kids can share about what’s going on, think outside the box.

Confidence to do what you want, seek a mentor, read a book, get a counselor if necessary

Plan your day, before checking email that way other people don’t dictate your day.

DrCaitlinFaas.com I help busy professionals and graduate students navigate work-life balance with career steps and productivity hacks. How can I help you today?

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BOOK

Adele Faber How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk

Susan David Emotional Agility

Sheryl Sandberg Lean In Women Work and the Will to Lead

Tiffany Dufu  Drop the Ball

Vicente Blasco Ibáñez TheFour Horsemen of the Apocalypse

John Gottman Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

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Goodreads: keeps track of books that you read and reading

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Podcast :  Courage and Clarity: women entrepreneurs

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