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Podcast: ManTalks Podcast
Episode:

Why Anxious & Avoidants Attract (and How to Fix it) with Thais Gibson
Category: Society & Culture
Duration: 01:05:09
Publish Date: 2026-03-02 15:30:00
Description:

I sit down with Thais Gibson to break down what attachment really is and how it shapes our relationships. We dive into anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment styles, how social media is impacting connection, and why so many couples get stuck in the same patterns. Thais shares a practical framework for rewiring core wounds and building secure attachment. If you’ve ever felt trapped in push-pull dynamics or struggled to communicate your needs, this conversation will give you clarity and direction.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 Introduction

00:48 Attachment at a Cultural Level

02:05 Social Media and Short-Term Gratification

05:16 Conflict as Crisis and Opportunity

07:23 Is Attachment Programmable?

09:24 How Attachment Styles Form

18:14 The “Bear in the Woods” Conversation

38:04 Core Wounds of Each Attachment Style

44:01 Rewiring Subconscious Beliefs

47:20 Can Two Insecure Partners Build Security?

50:25 Freeze and Shutdown Responses

56:19 Communication and Positive Framing

01:00:36 Why Anxious and Avoidant Attract

01:04:01 Where to Learn More from Thais

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