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What happens when the "perfect boyfriend" suddenly explodes?
A listener writes in about her kind, generous dream man—until he shouted, cursed, and loomed over her at 3 AM after she said she felt left out of his hobby-club mixer. Childhood memories of an angry step-dad came rushing back, and now she wonders: if rage shows up once, will it move in after I do? Glen and Yvette weigh safety, trauma, and how much grace is too much.
We talk: He played himself—no one should talk to a partner like that, Glen says, urging her to trust the fear signal. Glen’s first instinct: leave if he scares you—therapy can’t fix disrespect you tolerate. Yvette on trauma stacking and how tiny slights pile up until the midnight blow-up feels massive. Glen explains that if he invites you, he needs you in the hobby—not policing him. |