Ep 016: Secrets To Amazing Relationships.

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Hello. It's Brett Campbell here and today we're going to be talking about how you can have bar graded relationships, okay?

How you can have relationships that just mean so much to you and so much to the other person that everything else just doesn't seem to matter. Now you know that feeling, right? You're watching this and I hope you've had that feeling before of being in love with someone.

You know when you're in that moment, you're just like, "I just love that person so much" or, "I'm infatuated with them so much" everything else around you just doesn't seem to be an issue, right? Imagine being able to have that type of love energy in your relationships.

In your friendships, in your relationships with your children, your parents, your spouse. Whatever area, it doesn't really matter. These fundamentals and the strategies I'm going to share with you right now apply regardless. Before we get into this I want you to look at your relationships. What relationships do you currently have? Are you father, are you a mother? Are you a sister, a brother?

Are you in a relationship? Are you a husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend? Whatever, boyfriend and boyfriend, girlfriend and girlfriend. Whatever it is, I want you to write a list of the roles that you currently have in your life. I'd like you just to pick one or two right now, but I want you to eventually go through this entire process and ensure that you follow these strategies for each relationship.

Again, take yourself back to that moment when you're just so infatuated, you're so in love, just everything in the world just seems to not even be a worry. I hope you can really take that and build upon this. Let's look at your spouse for an example. We're just going to use this as an example.

Again, like I said, all these fundamentals apply regardless. What things do you do currently, right now, that you would class as working on your relationship? Think about this. We talk in business terms, we say, "Working on your business, not in your business."

Same rule applies with the relationships. Working on your relationship, not in your relationship, because what can happen is when you're in a spousal relationship...

To give you a little bit of a background about me, because who's this guy standing here talking about relationships is, I've been with my now wife for seven years and we just recently got married, which we're extremely excited about. She was very excited about it. So was I, of course. I have been in a relationship, I've gone through the ups and downs.

Like every relationship, there's no perfect relationship out there. Look, anyone who tells you they are, then you know what? Good on them, but I don't know anyone who can say they're just in a perfect relationship, there's no wave, ups and downs, because what happens is, you're in the relationship, not working on it. Think about that. What things are you currently doing to work on your relationship?

A few examples that I use that I hope you can take away and use is, I like to do surprises. Every so often, I don't have a strategy where like once a week I'll do a surprise on a certain day or time, because you want to make it unpredictable. I write little love notes and leave them around the house.

Now most people have been in relationships for seven years or more, probably after six months you'd probably stop that because I know I did. When I first started our relationship it was like, "Yeah, I'm working really hard at this." I was working on it, I was working on it. Then you start to get comfortable.

You know what I'm saying. If you're in a relationship you start to get comfortable and then all of a sudden you're like, "You know what? I want more from this. I want to make this great. I want to have that feeling that I had at the start of this relationship."